By: Jordy Peri
Imagine you have a jar, a pile of large rocks, a pile of small rocks, and sand. Somehow you have to fit all of these elements into your jar (your life). Sounds a lot like balance huh?
Here’s the thing though.
All of these elements (big rocks, small rocks, sand) must be placed in the jar (your life) in a very specific manner, or they will all not fit, and some of the most important aspects of your life might be left out or on the back burner unintentionally.
Big rocks are the non-negotiables.
These are the things, and people in your life that must always be front and center. These are the things that money can’t buy. Big rocks might look slightly different for everyone, but a lot of people could agree that their big rocks are family, friends, a career, fitness in some manner, etc. The big rocks have to go in your jar first. They will take up most of your time and energy, as they should, so make sure the big rocks are what they should be.
The other two elements, small rocks and sand, will be talked about at a later time, but these things fall in around the big rocks.
You might even have a small rock in your life that you are realizing in the moment should actually be a big rock, and that’s a good realization! The whole goal here is to do some reflection and maybe even change a couple things in your life that have unfairly taken its place as a big rock when it was never meant to be.
It is also important to remember that your jar could fit a lot more small rocks than big rocks, and life has a lot to offer in regards to hobbies, fun activities, friendships, etc. It is still very important to make the time and space for these parts of your life, but only after the big rocks.
I will give you an example.
My personal big rocks are FAITH, FAMILY, FRIENDS, & FITNESS. This means that every single day I am looking back at the end of the day and asking myself, how did I show up for these things today? Can I say that I did something that filled all of those cups a little bit? Did all of these areas of my life receive some part of my attention today? Was there a small rock that took priority (and therefore time away from) a big rock in my life today?
These are questions you should be asking yourself daily as well. Maybe you don’t know if a small rock in your life should actually be a big rock, and that’s okay, you don’t have to have an answer today, but it is something to start thinking about.
Remember that small rocks and sand can fall between the big rocks and still fit, but the big rocks can’t fit if the other two go first.